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Arranged​ marriages have continued being the stereotypical preference for many and have not lost their charm till date. But the time between the process of finding a life partner and finally getting hitched is the most baffling situation for a girl. It sounds simple to say a guy you meet 'yes' for marriage but it doesn't, it is certainly not a child's task. You should have all your senses strong while choosing your life partner. A marriage whether love/ arranged has to have your consent for it, if your marriage is being fixed by your parents it doesn't mean you cannot put your choices and decisions forward.This is the most crucial decision of your life and it is only you who can decide who is best for you.Make your self absolutely clear about what you expect your life partner to be?? and does your would be groom have those qualities you want in your future husband? there is nothing wrong in finding the "man of your dreams".Yes, he do exist, you just have to be extra cautious finding him.

• First ask yourself very clearly "are you ready for marriage at this phase of life?" or "you want to wait for some more time?" There is no kind of marriageable age. Marriages don't happen by any rule book of age and time,Unless you are mentally prepared for it. Don't force yourself if you don't want to get married at this particular time of your life.Waiting for your career or a perfect mate can be many reasons so,tell your parents and discuss it before they start searching groom for you. 
• Marriage word sounds scary and specially the one fixed by your parents, getting married to a guy they have chosen makes one nervous, but remember it is still your right to make the final call, that is why you are asked for a meeting with the guy. So, be very frank and don't hesitate. Discuss everything with him in your first meeting: your interests, hobbies, lifestyles, religious beliefs, career goals, life plans, his responsibilities and yours too. 
• Just be your own self when meeting him. Don't try to pretend or be what he likes you to be.If you don't like his ideologies discuss with him.Let him know what you can change and what you cannot in yourself after marriage.Remember you are not meeting him to get selected or rejected? you both are here to know how much compatible you are? and whether you can spend your life with a partner like each other. 
• You should be observant towards his behavior and psychic " how he talks with people specially elders? Does he respect and appreciate what your family is doing? Does he respect women? how he deals his anger, is he quick tempered? does he completely looses his cool, shouts and screams when he is angry? because if he does so it means he is an aggressive person and might end up even hurting you sometime in future. You cannot tolerate living your entire life with a person in fear. 
• Sometimes it do happens that you didn't find the guy you met good for you but everyone else at home liked him.So, they force you explaining that it doesn't matter see "how good the family is","in marriages you have do compromises","you can't be so selective", "people change after marriage","you are just being too judgmental" Blah! Blah!...etc but do remember you can compromise only with certain habits or qualities in a person you are marrying to but you cannot have a totally compromised married life.If you don't like certain qualities in him discuss with him openly and see how he takes your ideas and then only finally decide whether you both can mutually compromise with it or not? whether you can still settle down with him knowing that he won't change? Marriage is not one sided, it requires mutual understandings and decisions. Remember, life gives you one chance to decide for you.And It is only up to you while choosing the one. 

Girls! it is always better to have a clear understanding of your life partner. No one can make a better decision for yourself specially when it comes to getting married to a guy and there is no harm in taking time looking up for a man who will love you and keep you happy for lifetime. Remember, a late marriage is always better than a failed one.